First Day of School in Adelaide

It's Jayden's first day at a Trinity Gardens Early Learning Center (kindergarten)!! While sending him off, he didn't allow me to leave him alone in the school. After spending about 1.5 hour there, I can finally get his permission to leave! I guess it's snack time and his favorite food (strawberries and yogurt) makes him feels good. :P

While I was sending him lunch, I met with the teacher and she told me that he was doing fantastic indeed for his first day of school. He can communicate well with the teachers and is very adaptive and comfortable playing with other children. The best thing was he wasn't looking for me at all. I am a proud mom! Hehehe..

While waiting for Jayden during pick up time, I was peeping from outside. He was raising his hand and participating very well in the group time with the teacher. When it was time for pick up and he saw me, he pretended to be crying and said he didn't wanna friend with me.. What a drama..

A brief session with the teacher: He is doing great and having lots of fun in a lot of activities and playing with other children. He is especially playing closely with a boy named Jack. He could follow through the entire session (full day), and has very good communication with everyone. The school has prepared a Mandarin translator (knowing we just arrived in Adelaide and speaking Mandarin at home), but the translator told me that he doesn't need her at all, because his English is so good. What can I ask for more?? :P

While we were in the car getting ready to go home, he saw one of his newly met friend walking with his daddy, and Jayden went "Hey! Are you going home?" Then he said "This is our new car!" Hmm.. I feel so ashamed as our car is pretty old and rundown.. Hahaha..

After that, another kid passed by with his mommy and he called "Hey!" Jayden replied "Hey man, see you next time.. Oh no.. in 2 months.. oh no.. 1month.." After I corrected him that it's next week, he winded down the window and screamed to the boy "See you next week!" And the boy ran back to our car and said "See you next week!" They are just too cute! :)

Vaccination

Today, I brought Jayden to the doc for his vaccines, as he has to take MMR jab upon entering Reception early next year. Hubby suggested to take it here since we don't get the insurance covered for his vaccines, and it's going to be much cheaper to take it in KL.

After consulting with Dr Koe, she suggested Jayden to take the vaccine for Meningitis as well, as SA has strict enforcement that all children must take that at age 12 months. I was in dilemma whether or not to let Jayden take two jabs at once, but the reassurance from Dr Koe made my dtecision.

My heart was tearing throughout the process. It was a nightmare for both of us. Jayden completely refused it, I guessed he sensed danger. Worst, I had to carry him and held him tight (I felt like a convict!!). All I remember is the way I pictured myself carried and held him, his intense body during the injections, helpless screams and wails (two times), and his teary face and cries after it's done. The whole process felt like hours..

And that's also the reason why I couldn't fall asleep but writing here, now. It kept flashing in my mind whenever I closed my eyes. :( I felt sorry that I couldn't do anything to help him. It's really an extremely bad experience.. :(

Giggles in Sleep

On the very first "correcting" day, Jayden was giggling and laughing in his sleep. The same thing happened on the second night too. Now, I am further assured that my happy son is back from nightmare!! I feel so sorry for Jayden but at the same time, I forgive myself for making a mistake too. It is so encouraging seeing the changes taking place in him. :)

Absent Minded Mommy

I have a confession.. I have been an absent minded mommy.. :(

I am feeling so guilty now.. These few months I have been the worst mom I can ever be.. I have been so busy with house works, packing, arrangements and any other errands but being a present mommy. Yes, I have completely forgotten about being a 'present' mommy for my beloved Jayden.

I have been scolding Jayden when he wasn't being obedient. I have been throwing tantrums when Jayden wasn't listening to me. I have been shouting at him when he didn't come immediately after I called for two times. I have been a spoilt mom and took advantages of Jayden, as he is always unwilling to see me hurt and angry, he will quickly apologize and obey me.

Jayden has been such a good little boy, I would say a matured one for his age. And being an absent minded mommy.. I was completely out of my mind for so long!!

I have unknowingly created a fearful and stressful environment for him for the last few months. Finally when things are almost settled, I have time to reflect on what I have achieved and none of them are related to Jayden! I had not been playing with him like we used to, had not even "chatted" with him the way we used to, had not cared about his feelings and emotions at all, had cut down our story time to just 3 minutes, had used "Note and TV" to babysit him, and the list goes on. I feel terribly sorry now. :(

I must change now!! I thank GOD for giving me the wisdom to realize it before it's too late. I need to start to manage my time wisely so I can do my things when Jayden wasn't around. Changes that are going to take place the first thing when we woke up tomorrow:

1. I MUST include him as a task in my to do list, not just moving and packing related matters. 
2. I MUST speak softly to Jayden (not raise my voice).  
3. I MUST speak gently with Jayden (not scold). 
4. I MUST allow Jayden to make mistake (It's OK to make mistake!). 
5. I MUST create a positive and encouraging environment for Jayden. 
6. I MUST create a happy and fun home for Jayden. 
7. I MUST prioritize on spending quality time with him when he is around me. 
8. I MUST take his feelings and needs seriously.
9. I MUST be present whenever spending time with him, not to be absent minded. 
10. I MUST bring him to the playground and exercise together again. 
11. I MUST extend our story time by reading a few books like we used to do. 
12. I MUST bring back our fun soapy bath time again. 
13. I MUST monitor closely how long he utilizes the gadgets (not letting him sitting in front for hours). 
14. I MUST do things together with Jayden (not asking him to go away and do his things). 

Thank you GOD for letting me know now. I am going to put this in my desktop as a reminder. I MUST CHANGE!!! JIA YOU!!