New toy for the family

I've bought a magnetic car racing toy set for the family.. The main reason for me buying this is because it actually can have 2 players at the same time, and it seemed to be something more interesting for us, parents. I guiltily admit that sometimes it is kinda hard to play with Jayden especially when he asked us to play the toys (the toys for 4+). 

Therefore, when I saw this racing car system, I thought it might be a good toy for us too, but it might be something too matured for Jayden. I was rather worried initially. Thankfully, after setting it up and getting a hang of it, Jayden loves it!! Nonetheless, we love it too!! 

Frankly, tt's more engaging and fun (for us parents) to play this than other toys and we (adults) can play with him for hours!! Hehehe.. :P I am pretty happy that we can spend hours of fun together finally.. I really don't want him to play alone most of the time. :) 

Outgrowing toys characters

Finally, it's time to bid farewell to Thomas and Friends, and Transformers. Jayden slowly outgrows those two characters, as he no longer said they are his 'best favourite'. Instead, his latest favourite is Power Rangers Samurai and Go On Engine Sentei.. Both are of Japanese "descendants". Hehehe..

Therefore, he starts to collect his new favourite toys.. and yes, even his first bike is Power Rangers Boys Bike.. He surely enjoyed every bit of the pedaling fun.. :)

 

Jayden first spotted his new favourite toy 

Jayden said he is oneof the animal, and he is the lion turtle.. LOL

The 5 samurai animals that transform into Megazord Samurai

Jayden's first biking experience

He is a true happy camper

Love his great smile.. :)

Checking out his bike

He said these are his collections of Power Rangers Samurai

Taking a break after biking for almost an hour

A photograph with his collection

Growing strong

While picking up Jayden from kindy today, I saw him being kicked on the face while climbing the tree. There was another girl (Lily) before him and she didn't like him to be on the tree too hence gave him a kick on the face. While clinging on the tree trunk, Jayden cover his face with one of his palm and said "NO". 

Lily's mom saw the incident and immediately went over to stop her. I followed. When asked is it's hurt, Jayden said "No, it didn't hurt." 

Our conversation:

Me: Are you hurt, baby?

Jayden: No, it didn't hurt.

Me: Are you sure?

Jayden: Hmmm.. it didn't hurt anymore. I didn't cry.. because I am not scared. 

Me: Wow.. you are a strong boy. I am so proud of you.. Let me give you a big hug. 

Term 2 almost comes to an end. And since he started kindy till now, I figured that he has grown a lot stronger. I am really proud of my little baby.. :) 

My little heart warmer

Jayden always holds my hand when we are sleeping. So while putting him to bed just now, we had a very touching incident taken place.

Mom: 我的手很really really cold, maybe 你hide你的手在我的robe里面。
Jayden: 没关系。我可以hold你的手like this 的 (he put his warm hands on my wrist).
Mom: OK. But我怕我的手弄到你的手很冷的。

Then slowly, Jayden put both of his hands on my hands each, and warmed my hands (just like what parents would do to their kids). My heart was warmed and touched that I secretly cried in the dark. I couldn't have asked for a better son.. I am so thankful that God sent Jayden into my life 5.5 years ago. Now, I wish I would have been a better mom for Jayden. I will do my best to nurture and educate you with love, my dearest child. Mommy loves you so much.

Unexpected Nightmare

Since coming to Adelaide, our lives and routines have completely changed. Everyone is adapting and accommodating to the new environment, be it physically, socially, spiritually or mentally. One of the toughest thing for me since moving here is re-position myself in educating and nurturing Jayden.

Prior to moving here, I didn't expect any changes in Jayden, as what's happening now. He has always been the good boy to me. Since coming to the new place, he was still the same old little guy that I ever know. After a month here, things are gradually changing in him.

From a fun filled lifestyle in KL, Jayden's life has changed completely. I found him very bored of his routines. Other than going to school, he has nothing else scheduled for him. He is all alone when he is back home from school, there is no BaoBei class and plays with his cousins on weekdays, and no playdate on weekends. I feel rather guilty and sorry for him, as I couldn't afford to send him to any fun classes at the moment, until we are financially more sound and steady.

In fact, not just that. I found out from him that he does not really enjoy his school as much as Hummingbird, I guess he is still taking some time to adapt to the new environment. One of the major reason is because of the different accent in our language. Apparently, Jayden is speaking English with Malaysian accent back at Hummingbird, therefore he is very used to his teachers and classmates back in KL.

As for here, he doesn't have problems understanding the teachers and new friends, but they have problem picking up what Jayden is trying to say. There were times that he got frustrated because nobody seemed to understand him, and this is causing a slight bit of social blockage on him. This morning, I witness him gathering a lot of courage to talk to the teacher to get the toys he wanted to play with. After repeating patiently for a few times, the teacher still couldn't get him. Finally, the teacher came to me and asked what he wanted. Sometimes I wonder if our English is much better, at least we are not constrained by a certain accent. I would say Malaysians are really good, we can pick up multicultural English with ease (or not as bad as the Caucasians).

While picking him up just now, I also witness that some children don't want to play with him.. I am not sure if it's because he is new and the kids don't really get to know him yet, or they can't understand him so chose not to play with him. Well, I saw Jayden is making a huge effort to initiate a play with the kids. Hopefully it will pay off very soon! Another thing that I found is, he is the only Asian in the class, so I am really not sure if this is a good thing. I tried to find some schools which has a more balance and diversified ethnic groups, but perhaps only for the primary school since he is already attending the current kindy. I somewhat believe this will rather affect his Social Quotient, and maybe EQ too.

It might take some time for him to learn up the Australian accent too, as he is only going to school 2.5days a week, that's not even half a week! :( I do not know how to help him, that's why I feel rather helpless. I really hope this will be over soon. Recently, I have been trying to check out some community playgroups, hoping to be able to find some that he will like to join. I am also looking at some children's program from the local churches, hoping we will be able to find some groups that he likes to socialize with. I do miss the little Jayden that was ever so happy, cheerful and confident!

First Day of School in Adelaide

It's Jayden's first day at a Trinity Gardens Early Learning Center (kindergarten)!! While sending him off, he didn't allow me to leave him alone in the school. After spending about 1.5 hour there, I can finally get his permission to leave! I guess it's snack time and his favorite food (strawberries and yogurt) makes him feels good. :P

While I was sending him lunch, I met with the teacher and she told me that he was doing fantastic indeed for his first day of school. He can communicate well with the teachers and is very adaptive and comfortable playing with other children. The best thing was he wasn't looking for me at all. I am a proud mom! Hehehe..

While waiting for Jayden during pick up time, I was peeping from outside. He was raising his hand and participating very well in the group time with the teacher. When it was time for pick up and he saw me, he pretended to be crying and said he didn't wanna friend with me.. What a drama..

A brief session with the teacher: He is doing great and having lots of fun in a lot of activities and playing with other children. He is especially playing closely with a boy named Jack. He could follow through the entire session (full day), and has very good communication with everyone. The school has prepared a Mandarin translator (knowing we just arrived in Adelaide and speaking Mandarin at home), but the translator told me that he doesn't need her at all, because his English is so good. What can I ask for more?? :P

While we were in the car getting ready to go home, he saw one of his newly met friend walking with his daddy, and Jayden went "Hey! Are you going home?" Then he said "This is our new car!" Hmm.. I feel so ashamed as our car is pretty old and rundown.. Hahaha..

After that, another kid passed by with his mommy and he called "Hey!" Jayden replied "Hey man, see you next time.. Oh no.. in 2 months.. oh no.. 1month.." After I corrected him that it's next week, he winded down the window and screamed to the boy "See you next week!" And the boy ran back to our car and said "See you next week!" They are just too cute! :)

Vaccination

Today, I brought Jayden to the doc for his vaccines, as he has to take MMR jab upon entering Reception early next year. Hubby suggested to take it here since we don't get the insurance covered for his vaccines, and it's going to be much cheaper to take it in KL.

After consulting with Dr Koe, she suggested Jayden to take the vaccine for Meningitis as well, as SA has strict enforcement that all children must take that at age 12 months. I was in dilemma whether or not to let Jayden take two jabs at once, but the reassurance from Dr Koe made my dtecision.

My heart was tearing throughout the process. It was a nightmare for both of us. Jayden completely refused it, I guessed he sensed danger. Worst, I had to carry him and held him tight (I felt like a convict!!). All I remember is the way I pictured myself carried and held him, his intense body during the injections, helpless screams and wails (two times), and his teary face and cries after it's done. The whole process felt like hours..

And that's also the reason why I couldn't fall asleep but writing here, now. It kept flashing in my mind whenever I closed my eyes. :( I felt sorry that I couldn't do anything to help him. It's really an extremely bad experience.. :(

Giggles in Sleep

On the very first "correcting" day, Jayden was giggling and laughing in his sleep. The same thing happened on the second night too. Now, I am further assured that my happy son is back from nightmare!! I feel so sorry for Jayden but at the same time, I forgive myself for making a mistake too. It is so encouraging seeing the changes taking place in him. :)

Absent Minded Mommy

I have a confession.. I have been an absent minded mommy.. :(

I am feeling so guilty now.. These few months I have been the worst mom I can ever be.. I have been so busy with house works, packing, arrangements and any other errands but being a present mommy. Yes, I have completely forgotten about being a 'present' mommy for my beloved Jayden.

I have been scolding Jayden when he wasn't being obedient. I have been throwing tantrums when Jayden wasn't listening to me. I have been shouting at him when he didn't come immediately after I called for two times. I have been a spoilt mom and took advantages of Jayden, as he is always unwilling to see me hurt and angry, he will quickly apologize and obey me.

Jayden has been such a good little boy, I would say a matured one for his age. And being an absent minded mommy.. I was completely out of my mind for so long!!

I have unknowingly created a fearful and stressful environment for him for the last few months. Finally when things are almost settled, I have time to reflect on what I have achieved and none of them are related to Jayden! I had not been playing with him like we used to, had not even "chatted" with him the way we used to, had not cared about his feelings and emotions at all, had cut down our story time to just 3 minutes, had used "Note and TV" to babysit him, and the list goes on. I feel terribly sorry now. :(

I must change now!! I thank GOD for giving me the wisdom to realize it before it's too late. I need to start to manage my time wisely so I can do my things when Jayden wasn't around. Changes that are going to take place the first thing when we woke up tomorrow:

1. I MUST include him as a task in my to do list, not just moving and packing related matters. 
2. I MUST speak softly to Jayden (not raise my voice).  
3. I MUST speak gently with Jayden (not scold). 
4. I MUST allow Jayden to make mistake (It's OK to make mistake!). 
5. I MUST create a positive and encouraging environment for Jayden. 
6. I MUST create a happy and fun home for Jayden. 
7. I MUST prioritize on spending quality time with him when he is around me. 
8. I MUST take his feelings and needs seriously.
9. I MUST be present whenever spending time with him, not to be absent minded. 
10. I MUST bring him to the playground and exercise together again. 
11. I MUST extend our story time by reading a few books like we used to do. 
12. I MUST bring back our fun soapy bath time again. 
13. I MUST monitor closely how long he utilizes the gadgets (not letting him sitting in front for hours). 
14. I MUST do things together with Jayden (not asking him to go away and do his things). 

Thank you GOD for letting me know now. I am going to put this in my desktop as a reminder. I MUST CHANGE!!! JIA YOU!! 

Interesting Quotes and Conversations

I am compiling some interesting quotes and conversations with Jayden over the passed few months. Yea, I basically extracting (copy and paste) them from FB. Hehehe.. But I only managed to find a few.. Better than none.. :P

Conversation 1: 

While shopping yesterday, JJ said: "妈妈，你有很多鞋子了。。你不要买鞋子了。。" I was caught speechless! :S

Conversation 2: 
妈妈：轩，你要吃Kit Kat 吗？
振轩：Ms Callie说不可以吃junk food 的。。
妈妈：噢。。。


Conversation 3: 

While coming back from Hummingbird this afternoon, JJ ignited this conversation: 

JJ: 妈妈，Maile 不是我的best friend了
Mommy: 为什么呢？
JJ: 因为他叫我go away。她not nice 的，不是我的bestfriend了
Mommy: 噢。。那你伤心吗？
JJ: 嗯。
Mommy: 你现在的best friend是谁呢？
JJ: 我的best friend是Kyle Chin and Jeslyn only。
Mommy: 哦。。


Conversation4: 

Jayden: 妈妈，Australia的school没有homework吗？Only play吗？

Mommy：是呀！为什么呢？
Jayden：我不like homework。
Mommy：噢。。But 你有少少homework是因为大了。。
Jayden：我不要。我only要play，play，play only

I'm back!

It's been a few months since my last post. Life have been very busy especially with 2012 year end holidays, New Year, hubby's leaving to Adelaide, Chinese New Year and finally now, packing things to move to join hubby in a place we're calling home, soon. :)

There have been so much things happening within the last few months, a lot of changes, uncertainties, excitements, worries, struggles and blessings. During this transition period, we are very grateful that GOD has been watching and blessing us with continuous miracles. All the good news and miracles took place when we needed most. Thank You, GOD!! :)

Now, we are very looking forward to our move in late March. And guess what, Jayden is counting down the days by crossing each passing day on the calendar.

While busy packing stuffs, making arrangements and settling things here, I will do my best to do some posting here. I have to admit that it is too easy to post an update of everything about Jayden in FB, and it suits my currently busy lifestyle so much. Hehe..